If one of the lesbian dress like man, can they still be considered lesbian?

I studied in a girls’ junior high school, so I’ve seen quite a lot of lesbian at that time. What I saw, mostly, when two girls are together, there was always one dresses like men- baggy pants, over-sized t-shirt and short hair. I didn’t pay much attention to this phenomenon until when I saw lesbian couples in American TV show; they were both feminine on the outside.

In previous centuries, dress code is a very crucial part in the society. Those who wanted to fit in must always follow the code, if not; they’ll be criticized as rude and inappropriate. Nowadays in our society, individual differences are highly valued by most of the people; we gradually learn to accept others even if their appearances and how they dress are not what we called “normal”. But they’re still some who discriminate against those who dress discrepant to their identity. They can’t stand when men dress like women and women dress like men. They think everyone should know their own character in this society, and dress accordingly. But, it is just because they know who they are that they dress like the way they did. Dressing as they want when knowing they’re different needs courage because they will be notice and criticize. So I think lesbian dress like men only means that’s the identity they have for themselves, and that they’re more comfortable that way.

Some would say that lesbian dress like man because in every relationship, there has to have a man. So even if there are two girls being in a relationship, there will be one that represents the role “man”. This kind of statement makes me realize that a lot of people are idealizing the word “man”. No one ever doubts that if a homosexual dress like women, he is trying to “be” a woman. It is clear that their argument isn’t about the clothes they wear or how they look, it’s about men is necessary, and, can’t be missing in a relationship. Just because men are (mostly) physically stronger, they think man should dominate everything. They think, in a relationship, women cannot live without them, and that women should be protected by them. In fact, women can easily take care of themselves, and two women together are definitely capable of doing anything that the relationship between a man and a woman can do.

Gay or lesbian, they’re just being with the one they love the most, just like regular couples. Being called lesbian isn’t a bad thing because they know exactly who they are and what they love, and they are proud of it.